Dementia Cases Expected to Jump Significantly

A new study says dementia cases are expected to rise quickly over the next years. It is so important for individuals and families to prepare for elder care while there is still time!

Nightingale Home Healthcare

What an amazing week! I had the privilege of spending three days in Carmel, Indiana, visiting the beautiful new headquarters of the family-run company, Nightingale Home Healthcare.

Nightingale serves the Midwest -- Indiana, Illinois, Chicago, Minnesota -- and Las Vegas and Southern California -- caring for family elders in their homes and assisted nursing facilities.

I was delighted to visit hospitals and homes with the loving nurses, physical therapists, and patient advocates of Nightingale. The company was founded and is led by Dr. Dev Brar and his lovely wife, Piper Brar, who is also an RN.

Dr. Brar founded Nightingale with the purpose and vision to provide great service to care for elder parents and support us children through the difficult times of aging.

For more information on how Nightingale can help you and your loved ones, please visit homecareforyou.com

Thank you, Dr. Brar, Elizabeth, Pat, Jo Ann, Greg, Craig, Jason, Nurse Ryan, Physical Therapist Kelly, Patient Advocate Pam, Della, and Piper for a fabulous week!

If your loved one is facing coming home after hospitalization or needs extra care at home, please give these great folks a call! They will smooth your way and take great care of you and your Mom or Dad.

Advisor to ParentGiving.com Helps Mom Taking Care of Mom

Good article on a loving daughter caring for a mother with Alzheimer's in NY Times Fashion and Style section. Ultimate help came from a lady who is an expert adviser to the great online magazine parentgiving.com.

Published Today on California American Chronicle

I am delighted to share that my article on my Mom's hydrocephalus disorder and surgical treatment was just published by American Chronicle!

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The Laugh's on Me!

This is great. I go in to give my Mom her evening pills, and she says, "I think I'm lucky." "Lucky for what?" I ask. "Lucky that I get my pills." So I think lucky that we have the pills, lucky she has a loving daughter to give her the pills. Then my friend Kathy says, "Well, at least tonight you remembered the pills." Suddenly my mother's statement took on a whole new meaning!

The Scary Moments -- Mom's Surgery for Hydrocephalus Disorder

I remember last year when my mother had to have a shunt put in her head because she had hydrocephalus, a disorder caused by water on the brain. At the time I was living at home back east and had not seen her for several months (she being in CA) in a skilled nursing facility. I had come out for a two-week visit, which ended up lasting several months.

I thought my mother seemed a bit off from the last time I'd visited, and asked our doctor to do a CT Scan to learn if there was any need for treatment. The CT scan showed the hydrocephalus -- water on the brain. The treatment for hydrocephalus disorder is operating to put a shunt in the patient's head. The neurosurgeons are able to put in a valve that releases the pressure -- very cool intellectually but not so cool in practice. The National Institute of Neurological Disorders and Stroke offers great information on the symptoms and treatment of hydrocephalus.

My Mom is strong, but I thought I would fall apart when the anesthesiologist brought me into the patient recovery room -- verboten typically for family members to be brought in there, to comfort my mother. Holding my Bingo (firstborn Newfoundland) as we had to put her down, same with Wildfire my horse, and losing in a coma my beautiful Ringo (Bingo's "little" (190 lbs.) brother), prepared me for this moment. But barely.

I walked in and there was my mother lying in bed with one side of her head shaved, dried blood in all the scary places, staples, she completely out of it, and looking at me, saying, "Please Miss, Please Help Me, Miss, Please Help Me," for about 30 minutes. It was all I could do not to freak out on the scene. So I called on Christ's strength, refused to cry, asked them to up the morphine as much as they could (my mother always tolerated pain very well, consistently refusing pain medication, so I knew she was in agony.)

I held her hand and told her we would be okay. We were going to get through this together. I loved her and so did the Lord and she was going to be just fine.

The treatment worked, she recovered beautifully and came back to life, able to talk more and became much more aware of what was going on around her. But those piercing eyes and pleading voice haunt me to this day.

Here's the lesson I learned from losing my beloved Ringo, Wildfire and Bingo, and then facing my Mom in the recovery room, looking like a picture out of a horror movie: When you encounter those moments with your loved ones, hang in there for them and forget about yourself. Let out your breath and do your crying AFTER it's all over. Loving them best at these times often means forgetting yourself in the moment and focusing solely on them. It's hard but you CAN do it!

Hospice Care -- Know the Ins and Outs

Hospice care comes under Part A of Medicare, just like hospitalization. It is available to those at home, in assisted living facilities, skilled nursing facilities, and hospice hospitals.

Not all hospice care is for those who are terminal. The San Diego Hospice and Institute for Palliative Medicine has its own hospice hospital and serves patients throughout San Diego County in multiple facilities and individual homes.

The Institute also specializes in research and development of palliative treatment for acute cases in hospitals where the patient is not terminal.

The National Hospice Foundation (NHF) has a terrific site full of information on hospice programs and guidance for use throughout the 50 states.

NHF is currently requesting stories of patient's hospice experiences and those of hospice workers to post on their site. To share your story Click Here!

Special Moments

You can't recreate special moments, you can only create new ones.

It was my birthday recently, and I was blessed with a wonderful celebration. After a morning filled with bouquets of lovely flowers, email, voicemail, and social media birthday wishes and time spent with my mother and dear friends, we topped the night off (an unusual evening out) with a DELICIOUS array of vegetarian sushi and sparkling wine (Sofia--a new favorite, though I feel a traitor to my French roots). We gobbled it all down in 30 minutes to make the next showing of the latest Harry Potter movie -- I was on cloud nine, happy as a lark. What a wonderful day.

Three days later I wanted that same experience again. So, I picked up the same sushi from the restaurant, got those cute little cans of Sparkling Sofia, sat out on the patio with my friend and my Maman just inside the door in her room -- and what I discovered, it wasn't the same. It was nice, it was pleasant, but it didn't have the thrill of those birthday moments.

This got me thinking about our parents, as they age, and how we remember holidays and great times together, going shopping with Mom, or a ballgame with Dad, and now we grieve because they are lying in bed and can no longer walk, or they don't recognize us anymore. And we wish we could relive those special moments -- but we can't. We'll never be able to make them happen again, they are gone forever.

But as I discovered that same afternoon on the balcony, we can experience new special moments. My girlfriend, Kathy, and I splashed our champagne with cranberry juice and I poured some for my mother in her plastic cup with a straw. "How is it?" I asked. "Delicious," she said with a big smile on her face, "Absolutely delicious."

That was a new special moment.

WOW! Almost 60,000 Have Quit AARP Since July 1

President Obama's proposed health care plan and the position of the nation's largest association of seniors on that plan has lost it nearly 60,000 members since July 1, CBS reports.

Honor Your Father and Mother!

One of my favorite of the Ten Commandments is: “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be prolonged in the land which the Lord your God gives you.” Exodus 20:12 New American Standard Bible (NASB).

In Paul’s Letter to the Ephesians, he writes “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. HONOR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER (which is the first commandment with a promise), SO THAT IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU AND SO THAT YOU MAY LIVE LONG ON THE EARTH.” Ephesians 6:1-3 NASB (emphasis in original).

Beyond respecting and obeying them as children, I believe that caring for our parents through their elder years is one of the finest, toughest, and most rewarding opportunities we have to honor them. We don’t do it for the purpose of prolonging our own days, but the importance to God of our honoring our parents is made clear by His promise of prolonging our days.

Here's to you loving your parents!

Pending Hospital Tests and Discharges

Check this new study out!

America: A Utlitarian State?

Elders and others are rightly concerned that our land of liberty is turning into a utilitarian state.

"Pragmatism is the notion that meaning or worth is determined by practical consequences. It is closely akin to utilitarianism, the belief that usefulness is the standard of what is good. To a pragmatist/utilitarian, if a technique or course of action has the desired effect, it is good. If it doesn't seem to work, it must be wrong." John F. MacArthur, Ashamed of the Gospel

Mom and Me and a Party for More than Three!

Loving Mama over the weekend right at home! Check out her glamour girl earrings! She got all dressed up for our special guests -- John and Jeanette -- after almost 30 years apart. Together again thanks to Facebook and their drive all the way from Scottsdale to San Diego! What a wonderful time!

New Publications on American Chronicle

Newly Published by Jane Allison Austin on American Chronicle: "Long-Term Health Care Insurance" You've got it, now what will it do for you? And if you're considering buying long-term care insurance, different rates for different daily rates in nursing homes apply.Click Here to Learn What You Need to Know for Yourself and Your Parents.

Popular Article by Jane Allison also published on American Chronicle: "An RN Speaks Out on Nursing Homes" Click Here!

My Parent Has Long-Term Care Insurance-Now What?-Part 2

In "My Mom Has Long-Term Care Insurance-How do I Interview Nursing Homes-Part 1," we looked at the importance of first determining the per diem rate your parent's long-term care insurance policy provides. You will want to check with your health care insurance company to find out exactly how much the policy your parent purchased will pay to a nursing home for your parent's daily care.

This question is very important because different health care insurance companies provide different long-term care insurance policies purchased at different rates.

One daughter told me that her health care insurance company told her that she could pick any nursing home for her mother, so she immediately wanted to know what to look for in nursing homes.

Great question, but the first question to ask is how much will you have to spend under the terms of your parent's long-term care insurance company policy -- how much in additional funds will you or your parent have to pay if you pick a nursing home of better quality than the per diem allowable cost of Mom or Dad's long-term care plan.

As you're looking at nursing homes, ask what is the nursing homes' daily cost? Will there be extra charges for diapers, gloves, wipes, laundry, medicine? If you have to purchase these, they CAN be brought in from the outside. Don't pay the rates the nursing home charges--that's usually where they make extra money. Save your money for the important expenses. Go to Costco or Sam's Club or order on line.

There are also outside mail-order pharmacies for any medications covered or not by Medicare or secondary insurance. A good nursing home facility will help you arrange for that. If not, you can also do it on your own.

If you're looking for an inexpensive tool to discover free resources and giveaways for seniors Click Here!

Many facilities have trouble finding quality nurses to work in their facilities. Often you will see that they don't even have every shift covered by one registered nurse.

This is a bad sign.

You should also look at the most recent state health board report on the nursing home facility. Check out how many negative notices have been made against the nursing homes your are looking at. Often times, nursing homes will be cited for not giving medications at the proper time (very important) or skipping them altogether. Ask also what is the turnover rate of staff?

Stop in some time during the week when the nursing homes are not typically expecting family visitors and ask to take a tour -- look through the entire facility. Is there a cup with a straw and filled water pitcher by each person's bed? Is there a television, telephone?

How will you reach your parent by phone? Will your Mom or Dad have to use a cell phone to talk to you? Will you have to rely on the nurse's desk to take a phone to your parent's when you call (good luck with that!). Communication between the elder and family members is crucial to the elder's mental health. Make sure you and your family members can communicate easily with Mom or Dad.

Also ask to look into the shower areas and see how clean they are.

And, of course, as I recommended in Part 1, talk to other family members of other patients. But still make sure you make a surprise visit during the week to really see what happens when the nursing home is not typically expecting visitors.

Also, find out about doctors. Does the facility have a Medical Director who visits or is on call? Typically, only the highest-end facilities do. So, you need to make sure that your parent's physician will come to the nursing home you choose or that it's easy for you to arrange for transportation to the doctor's office.

I've written before and will mention again that elder and disability transportation services are one of the highest growth areas of necessary services as boomers and our parents age. Many available services are run very poorly.

If you are looking for a growth business, I recommend strongly that you check out elder/disability transportation service opportunities. This resource I'm recommending may look a little intimidating at first but it's a great investment in learning how to build a transportation service company--Click Here!

I can tell you from first-hand experience that a well-organized, caring, service-oriented transportation company for the aging and disabled will attract many clients, both private individuals and families as well as nursing home facilities that have to arrange for transportation of their patients to and from hospitals and doctors' appointments.

Finally, meals. Some facilities do not want to serve individuals in bed because they want them up and out, they say, it's more social for the seniors, but it's also more work for the staff. You should find a nursing home facility that will allow meals to be served in the room, at the patient's discretion. There may be days or come a time when your parent will want/need meals to be served in bed.

Keep in mind, you are not alone through all of this. We offer telephone consultations to guide you through your health care planning, both pre-planning and emergency situations. To contact us, Click Here!

Blessings and encouragement, Jane Allison

My New Article On Nursing Homes Published Today On American Chronicle!

Please click here to read!

An RN Speaks Out On Nursing Facilities-What To Ask and What to Look Out For!

We talk with a lot of clients about nursing homes. I have asked a licensed RN who visits multiple nursing homes to share with us her observations and thoughts on care in these facilities. Very inciteful.

I hope this is helpful to you as you care for your parents. As always, please share any comments you have below. Thanks to my friend for her great contribution.

This is in response to a request I've gotten to post my ad hoc observations about nursing homes and how they differ, and how to know if your loved one is getting the appropriate care.

First, I strongly recommend the Medicare website, which has a Nursing Home Compare section with a ton of information.

Next, keep in mind that I am still very new to working with nursing homes, so my observations have their limits. I welcome input/comments from anyone who can expand, elaborate, contradict, or otherwise enhance these comments. For example, I don't actually know what regulations nursing homes have to follow, and what information they are required to provide to the public. With all that said, here we go.

Here's what I like to see:

-- Nurses who know the patients well, and can easily talk about their eating habits, the "as needed" medications they've had to take, and their physical status without having to look something up.

-- Patients who need to be fed actually being fed, instead of having their tray sit in front of them untouched for 45 minutes without anything to keep the food warm, or any indication that they DO get fed -- at all. (TIP: schedule a stealth visit at mealtime.)

-- Patients with significant debilities nonetheless being encouraged and helped to get out of bed and into some sort of chair if at all possible.

-- Clear, detailed documentation of any wounds and their treatment (including measurements) that is (1) easy to access, and (2) updated AT LEAST weekly (you'll only be able to legally access records for your own family members).

-- Appropriate use of "as needed" medication for pain, agitation, or other distressing symptoms.

-- A clean, bright environment with no evidence of broken equipment.

-- A low pressure ulcer acquisition rate, and someone who can tell you what it is.

-- Activities for residents.

-- A wide variety of services provided by the facility (not contracted), including physical therapy, speech therapy, occupational therapy, behavioral therapy, dieticians, and so on.

-- Staff that clearly enjoys working together and at the facility

That's a start. I'm sure there are folks reading this who could add more.

Please add any thoughts or comments below. Especially if you are an RN, please share with us your insights. If you are looking for a nursing facility, keep these and other facts discussed below in other posts in mind as you search for a facility. Take great care of your parents in this area and the reward will be tremendous!

Blessings, Jane Allison

My Mom Has Long-Term Care Insurance -- How Do I Interview Nursing Homes? - Part 1

It is SO important at this juncture to research, research, research.

First find out what is the per diem on your mother or father's long-term care insurance. Different plans pay different amounts per day.

Every facility has a per diem, and any difference between what your insurance provides and what the actual cost of the nursing home facility is would come out of you or your parent's pocket.

A long-term policy might pay $114 a day, but the best nursing home facilities may charge $250 or more. (This is also important to think about in your 40s when you start looking at purchasing long-term care insurance.)

So, have your insurance paramaters straight before you journey out into the unknown nursing home world.

The first thing you want to notice as you walk into a nursing home facility, is does it smell? If it does, walk out. Bad smelling facilities are poorly run. It means that the patients are not being changed and cleaned routinely. It also means the staff and director are willing to tolerate that -- which raises concerns about what other poor care they are willing to tolerate.

I would ask to meet with the Director of Nursing (DON), not just the Admissions Director or Assistant, who are basically the sales people. If the DON is not willing to make an appointment to meet with you, I would go elsewhere. It is unusual for the request to be made, most people don't know to ask. But he or she is the person who runs the facility, if it is skilled nursing, so it is very important to interview them.

Ask the DON what the staff turnover rate is, what is their proportion of CNAs, LVNs (who give medicine) and RNs per patient. How many charge nurses are on duty (those who sit at the desk) during each shift. This should also be posted somewhere on a wall in the entry way by law in most states.

In Part 2 we'll focus on the difficulties many nursing home facilities have in training and keeping good staff, and how to give your Mom or Dad the best chance to get into the best nursing facility.

Exercise For Seniors -- The Happiest Way to Live!

I have to admit I hated golf. Tennis was always my thing growing up in L.A. Loved Breakfast at Wimbledon, the whole thing. Instant gratification (or not) every time you hit the ball, and the points went fast.

Then I married my husband. A golfer -- the most boring sport known to me. Slow, slow, slow...Then I watched him play. And man, did he think, and analyze, and think and analyze each shot. And walk and walk and walk. Me, too. Enlightened me: There's a lot of thinking involved with this game...It's very strategic...

So, now here's my pitch, to mix sports metaphors. One of the most important things for our aging parents to do is exercise. Here is a great place to answer your questions on the benefits of exercise for seniors.

Tennis for some may no longer be an option. (Tennis Elbow a problem? Click Here!)

But how about my new favorite? Golf? I'm even learning how to play. Putting's my best -- I think it was all that miniature golf as a kid. Here's a resource I also found for lots of great tips for senior golfers seeking exercise, a great game and fellowship.

Balance is also important as our parents get older. My mother is bedridden because over time she refused to get out of bed and now her internal equilibrium causes her to feel like she's falling even when she is lying in bed. That's why I press this point so hard: I don't want what happened to my mother to happen to yours. Here is a great resource for balance exercises for your Mom or Dad to work on now. Click for info here.

If Mom or Dad prefers swimming, Click Here!

Exercise works the brain, the soul and the body -- and it's one of the best social activities around. So get your folks out there, study how to improve your game together, if you're golfing, enjoy the links and remember the golfer's goal -- long and straight!

How to Talk with Your Parents About their Future!

Recommended by Mike Gamble @Mike_Gamble on Twitter -- An excellent Article! How to Talk About Caregiving with Your Aging Parents, written by Julie Davis, Managing Editor of ParentGiving.com http://bit.ly/ZC6fA

Elder Hallucinations Can Be Scary!

My mother hallucinated last night -- these are bits of the scary part of caring for an elder parent. From the living room, I heard her say, "I don't want any more orange juice." But as far as I knew, we were the only ones in the house.

I went it and asked about the juice. She said the nurse was making her drink more orange juice. "Which nurse," I asked, playing along. "The one right there." Okey-dokey. "How 'bout some water instead" Okay, she said.

My mother's on a mimumum amount of medication compared to many her age for which I am grateful. These hallucinations -- her mother, my Daddy, her old bosses, folks coming to a dinner party -- were more prevalent at the skilled facility, when she wasn't being talked to and engaged all day long like she is here at home.

So, I guess if I were alone, I'd make up friends, too. The first time it happened, I freaked out, but was told that it's typical with forms of even mild dementia.

Just as long as all she's looking at is a nurse wanting to give her orange juice. If the bad guys come, I might have to pull out my imaginary guns.

Just Published at American Chronicle

Powers of Attorney and Advance Medical Directives - What Every Adult Child Must Know - Part 1

Honored to have this publihsed today! Read article at American Chronicle and stay tuned for Part 2.

Cheers and thanks for your support!

Durable Powers of Attorney, Powers of Attorney for Healthcare, and Advanced Medical Directives--The Law

One of THE most important issues to talk to your parents about is their executing a Durable Power of Attorney -- (POA) or (DPOA) in some states, an Advanced Medical Directive and Power of Attorney for Healthcare.

If your parent has a stroke, heart attack, or is unconscious for a period of time, these documents must be in place to make your helping them as easy as possible so you can focus on loving them through it and not the attending medical legal issues. Any good attorney can prepare all of them for you. Please do it now before a sudden healthcare matter arises.

The Durable Power of Attorney will allow you or whomever your parent appoints to make decisions, pay their bills, handle conversations with Medicare and insurance while they are out of commission. I usually recommend a POA that does not require a physician's determination of the incapacity of the elder. But parents need to understand that the POA can be used even when they are fully conscious, so there are some safeguards I put around that, which we will discuss later.

Advanced Medical Directives tell your parents' physicians what they want done or not done for them if they're in a critical state: life support, a Do Not Resuscitate Order, etc.

A Medical Power of Attorney for Healthcare gives you or the person your parent appoints the ability to make health care decisions for them in their stead.

It's hard to face those decisions as a child, but much easier if you've had the conversation ahead of time about what your parent wants to do. Then you'll know you're carrying out their wishes, difficult as it may be.

Elder Care Transportation--A Much Needed Business

When my mother was in a skilled nursing facility (SNF), one aspect of her care that was very important was her transportation to and from doctors' appointments. Although we were blessed at her facility to have an on-staff medical director who came to her room, there were several referrals he made to specialists who would only see us in their offices.

Over the course of a year, we went to a neurosurgeon (and back and forth to the hospital for testing and eventual surgery to implant a shunt), to the endocrinologist, and to the radiologist.

None of this would have been possible in a regular car. My mother could only be transported in a wheelchair, and for that we need elder care transportation -- a large van with an elevator lift and safety belts to hold my mother (and me) in place.

Some services were great, others terrible. There is such a need for caring, professional transportation services for the elderly--it's a huge market, and not one necessarily well-served. In this economic age, many folks are looking for businesses to start. This could be a great one if you care for elders and run it well! If you're interested in some information that may be helpful, see Elder Care Transportation.

Some drivers went so fast my mother would scream; others treated her with tender loving care -- they were the best!

San Diego's Institute for Palliative Medicine Improving Acute Pain Treatments Worldwide

The Institute for Palliative Meidicine -- the research side of San Diego Hospice -- leads the world in acute care palliative research, treatment and training. Palliative care is no longer just for individuals who are passing. Palliative care specialists can be brought in to acute hospital situations to consult on pain management. Learn more about this shining research light and their work at The Institute for Palliative Medicine